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Emotionally Unavailable?
If you are reading this article, then at some time you’ve likely heard something similar to, “You don’t get me. You’re not hearing me. I don’t feel like you understand what I’m saying or feeling.” You might be having a bit of a visceral reaction as you read this. It is not fun to hear them directed at you and they can ignite frustration, anger, feeling sick to your stomach, sadness, and hopelessness.
Sobriety Is Not Recovery
There are conscious and underlying unconscious drives for all compulsive behaviors. Because of this sobriety is not the same as recovery.
Conflict in Marriage: Recognize Impact Over Intent To Build Intimacy
Resolving marriage conflict feels hard, but it can be much easier. We must learn to see that impact trumps intent in relationships. This honors our spouse and others as beautifully crafted image bearers of God.
Personal Growth: Beyond Behavior Management
Whether it is addiction, anger, marriage, or simply feeling stuck, change is hard. That’s not surprising given that we are wonderfully deep and complex creatures. Part of the joy of being a counselor is getting to explore the wilds of a person’s heart with them. When we can frame change in terms of what we want to be true rather than what we want to not be true it taps into those deeper places.
AI and Pornography Addiction
AI is new on the scene and showing up everywhere including in pornography. It creates a unique and intoxicating experience that amplifies porn’s already addictive properties. What does this new syle of engagement do to our souls?
The Kind Gaze of God
Feelings of guilt, defeat, and shame can be overwhelming when we find ourselves acting in ways that we don’t approve of. But, what if the narrative we tell ourselves, “real Christians don’t do that” is just plain unhelpful in this conversation. I think Jesus approaches things differently.
Feeling Down Today
Down and depressed days can swoop in on the unsuspecting heart like an owl at midnight on a rabbit grazing in the cool grass. The heart is taken aback and thrown into hopelessness under the weight of the seemingly unending circumstances that squeeze all lightness of spirit out. Everything can suddenly feel heavy and unmovable.
Depression has a way of acting unpredictably for those who suffer with it. It can move in at a moment’s notice. The brain seems unexplainably primed for it sometimes.
White Knuckling Porn
I don’t know about you, but I’m tired of hearing it. Quitting porn is not as easy as simply stopping.